Parents, it's time for some tough love. That college counseling meeting isn't about you. Those course selection discussions? Not your choices to make. When you jump in to answer every question directed at your teen, you're sending a clear message: "I don't trust you to handle this."
Your 17-year-old may stumble explaining why they're interested in environmental science. They might take longer to articulate their thoughts about campus culture. But these moments of uncertainty are valuable. They're practicing essential skills they'll need in college interviews, internships, and beyond.
When your child says they're interested in a college because "the vibe feels right," resist the urge to rephrase it into something that sounds more sophisticated. Their authentic voice matters more than your polished one. College admissions officers want to hear from the student, not a carefully curated version filtered through a parent.
The college search isn't just about finding the right school – it's about your teen discovering who they are and what they value. When you dominate these conversations, you rob them of this crucial self-discovery process.
Next meeting, try this: Sit back. Stay quiet. Let the silences be uncomfortable. Watch your teen find their voice. They might surprise you with insights about themselves you've never heard before.
Remember, your role isn't to be their voice. It's to help them develop their own.
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